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Originally Posted by starburst
I did not mean to delete my previous post. I was viewing the thread the day it disappeared, so I must have inadvertently deleted it. I apologize for my inept keyboard skills.
The deleted post is quoted in its entirety in post #70 by "sweetpea". I do apologize for the mistake and again wish to thank everyone for their encouragement and concern.
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I didn't quote the whole thing unforunately, but I am glad I was able to get a large part of the post saved
no worries, I have done that a time or two myself I think.
Would you like to share with the ladies and myself how things are going for you this week?
I would strongly urge you to continue to put yourself first. You don't want to be stuck in a marriage that is bordering on domestic abuse (I say bordering only because this is online and I know I don't know all the facts, but it sure does fit the description of domestic abuse/emotional abuse plain and simple)
Having had a friend who was in an abusive marriage, I am a big advoate that unless your man is seeking sincere efforts at couseling with professionals to adress his behavior.... he's not going to change and when you reconcile at the end of this trial month... he's just going to go back to his manipulative ways.
I am sorry to the OP, I see this thread has gotten a bit off track from 'rough sex.' But I think it illustrated that in healthy relationships based on trust and mutual pleasing sexually... rough sex can be good... but in a negative controlling sexual relationship... rough sex is just plain abuse.
I am keeping you in my thoughts starburst and I have talked about your situation with my friends and all the other women I have talked to are proud of you for having the courage to stick up for yourself.
If you do choose to leave him (which, unless he is seeking some true professional help.... I would consider it for your own safety) there is not only your family... but also places that will help you and offer you aid as a woman in a dangerous situation. No woman is ever alone. I think that's an important message to put out there. there are Many many programs to help women get help, one that my friend used when she left Her abusive marriage. And you know what, it's been 6 years now and she is a new woman, much happier, with a life free of emotional/domestic abuse.
thanks, thank you for letting me give my two cents, we women have to stick together in this world
Sweetpea