I found my magic hair potion a few years ago...Boots curling cream. I loved it because it tamed my frizzies and didn't give my hair that crispy, crunchy look and feel that you get from gel or mousse. Unfortunately, they discontinued it
(BTW snowy, I feel your pain. I have a lot of kinda wavy, kinda curly hair too. It's a complete pain in the butt!)
I straighten my hair a lot now...maybe I'll give that Redken a try. My current straightening balm is nothing to write home about.