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I don't think it's that big a deal.
Physical changes during puberty include more body hair (face, arm pits, chest and pubic) an increase in size of the penis and testicles (not a big deal), the voice getting deeper and few other minor changes.
Sex education:
Masturbation is not dirty or wrong, but I think most young boys figure it out on their own. Safe sex is important, but largely destigmatised. Wet dreams have the potential to be embarrassing and even slightly alarming, but not everyone has them. I tend to think of them as a sort of safety valve; guys need to get off regularly, and if we're not having sex or masturbating we have wet dreams instead. It relieves the pressure, so to speak.
Try not to be embarrassed about these things. It's natural, it's part of life and it's not a big deal. This is the message you want to pass on to your son, more than anything else.
For the record, I was raised for most of my younger life with no father figure. Mum never broached the subject with me and I turned out fine; then again, my hunch is that sex education programs are probably more liberal here than in the US, so you might want to look into his school's program before deciding to pass the buck, as it were.
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