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Originally Posted by MEAD
Also, for ladies who are concerned with the double standard that it is acceptable for a man to have had more sexual partners than a woman, I suggest that instead of complaining about it realize that the power is in your hands. You can decide whether or not you will have sex with a man who has many partners. If men are allowed to think that its okay for them to have many partners, but not a woman. Then you are equally allowed to think that it is okay for a woman to have had many partners and not a man. When you simply blame a socially constructed "double standard" you admit defeat and accept it as unchangeable. It's completely in your hands to change that on a personal level.
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Oh, believe me, I knew the power was in my hands, before I got married. When I was a virgin, I chose to not have sex with a man with many partners, though it was for other reasons (his extreme emotional imbalance and insecurity, which manifested itself in his having an uncountable number of partners--which is not always the case, but it was this time). I did choose to have sex with a man who was a virgin, and I had only been with one person before that... and while neither of us cared about each other's backgrounds, it certainly didn't hurt to have a similar background of experience, if that makes sense. I married that one.
