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I don't see a problem with having a conscious personal limit of sex partners you find acceptable for you and your partner. Why should it be strange that someone would want to be with a partner who values sex in the same way that that her/ she does? I think the problems arise when you become hypocritical and put stricter limits on your potential partner than you do yourself. That disparity is a sure source of conflict. Also, for ladies who are concerned with the double standard that it is acceptable for a man to have had more sexual partners than a woman, I suggest that instead of complaining about it realize that the power is in your hands. You can decide whether or not you will have sex with a man who has many partners. If men are allowed to think that its okay for them to have many partners, but not a woman. Then you are equally allowed to think that it is okay for a woman to have had many partners and not a man. When you simply blame a socially constructed "double standard" you admit defeat and accept it as unchangeable. It's completely in your hands to change that on a personal level.
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Here are some phrases I'd like to be able to say, in all honesty, before I die.
"That's it, send out the ninjas!"
"So then I had to kill my way to the second floor."
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