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so you got a reality check. everyone needs/gets one from time to time. bitterness is just one possible reaction, you may not control the circumstances (at least this far down the hole) but you DO control your reaction to them. In order to not be bitter/resentful... you must simply not be bitter or resentful about it! take it as a learning experience, give the relationship a loong break, I mean don't even think about it, and think about whats really important to you.
not to sound condescending but I think you need a little perspective on the whole marriage thing. nobody needs marriage. you don't need marriage to have a family and you don't need marriage to be happy. don't buy into the bullshit, created by people with an agenda. in fact the whole institution was basically created and promoted to serve various agendas through the ages. its really a handy way for religious and government organizations to keep tabs on the population. The Church even used it as a tool of power against kings. Thats why it was such a notable event, when Henry the Eighth sent the Pope a big fuck you, and from there it was all downhill to 50% divorce rate. Because marriage is not a natural state of humankind. and its been an anachronism at least since 1533. so dig a little deeper and think about what you really want out of life and how you're going to get there, and don't dwell on what's done. because what's done is done.
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