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Originally Posted by jewels
Three questions for you (or anyone else who feels this way):
1. What about the numbers makes you uncomfortable? Specifically. What's the red flag?
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It's partially an emotional reaction. It's also a suspicion that I may be just another notch in the bed post, along with a healthy dose of respect (or paranoia, if you prefer) for the potential consequences of promiscuity.
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2. Do you ask her how many partners she's had before you date her or when you're about to sleep with her?
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If it hasn't come up in conversation prior to that point (which it might've, since I tend to be a pretty straightforward guy) I will ask before sleeping with her. If it just
happens, then I'll be very firm about proper protection and save it until after. It's never actually happened that way, though.
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3. At this point, do you know her well enough to know if she's telling you the truth?
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My own days of promiscuity are well behind me at this point (and I didn't rack up anywhere near 50 partners). As a consequence, I don't generally sleep with people who I don't know well. Given that honesty is a key personality trait for me and that I've gotten very good at detecting lies, yes I feel confident that I would know if she lied to me and that we would have a problem if that were the case.