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Originally Posted by abaya
Would you all be responding the same way if a girl logged on here and said, "How many partners is too many? My boyfriend has been with 50+..." (Okay, maybe a few of you would respond the same way, but seriously... watch the double standard and the role of your ego.) This is the same old question... why is it so much more "troublesome" when women sleep around than when men do? Why should someone's # of partners indicate something about their faithfulness? I don't get it.
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I would be responding exactly the same way. This is taking responsibility for one's actions.
I don't care how many people you sleep with. Fuck every man/woman in your town if it makes you happy. I do, however, reserve the right not to date someone based on such activities. Why would I intentionally enter into a situation I'm not comfortable with?
So, yeah. I don't care how many women any given man has slept with for the same reason I don't care how many men a woman I'm not interested in has slept with. It doesn't affect me. If I'm interested in a woman, then it does have the potential to affect me and in that situation I may make a judgement (that judgement being generally restricted to 'I would/would not get involved with this person'). It has nothing to do with gender except insofar as men are exempt from judgement from me because they're not people I would be getting romantically or sexually involved with.
EDIT - it should be mentioned as well that here, as in most situations, context is important. If a woman has racked up 50 sexual partners by the time she's 20, that's going to raise a red flag for me. By the time she's 45 it's someone less remarkable by virtue of the fact that she's had more time. One every six months is much less alarming than one every six weeks.