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Originally Posted by vanblah
Really?
The point I am making is not to infringe on anyone's desire to be sexually expressive. I whole-heartedly endorse our ability to be expressive in any way, shape or form. What I am talking about is when it's appropriate and when it's not.
Did you see the little back-and-forth that ngdawg and I had during the whole grammar nazi portion of the conversation? There is a time and place for it.
When a woman walks down the street and is the (unwanted) recipient of OVERT male sexual desire (ie, wolf whistles) then it becomes offensive.
It is certainly not a black-and-white issue (no reference to racism). |
yeah, to reference the 1st post you quoted, I find it offensive to others, not so much myself. I really don't mind, I went pages and pages without replying but I just had my brain start to twitch that people were taking it SO SO seriously.
Really, who's being hurt by the phrase "i'd hit it" ?
it's not intended for the would be "hittee" to hear anyway.
* If you say that to her face, you're being too forward, you're going to make her uncomfortable, you're going to come across like a jackass, it's fine to be sexually attracted to another person, its fine to convey that to them, but I think people should make no mistake here and truly realize that women, are going to choose what they want, despite what you do/try/say/think/feel. They will make exceptions and accept flaws if they think you have something they want, be it a quality or value or just flat out attraction.
So in truth, this thread is a giant "nice guys finish last" rant in disguise to me.
*Much like my journal isn't for people I write about to read, or much like something you tell your buddies in confidence isn't to be shared, and really, I think "I'd hit it" is pretty much just a way of seeking validation of your attraction amongst your peers, kinda like a very brief way of saying "Wow I think she's attractive, you guys notice her?" yes, it's more crude than the phase I just wrote, it's very base and it's like "hey this was my initial reaction before i've had time to go find out if she has a personality.
Attraction happens. deal.