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Originally Posted by mixedmedia
And vanblah, you are right that both men and women need to change how they are approaching and contributing to this problem. For the woman's part, I would think the biggest contribution they could make would be to stop allowing themselves to be objectified for money. That's not to say that women shouldn't be sexual and desirable, but somewhere along the line we sold away our right to control where and when we are seen as objects. Yes, this has always gone on to some extent, but somewhere along the line between pin-ups and wolf-whistles and today we lost our option to decide whether we want to play an active part in it or not because sexual objectification is so commonplace. The stimulation for the behavior is out there, everywhere. Therefore we have men today who see these habits as an entitlement and women, like me, who are kind baffled by it because we didn't see it coming. No pun intended.
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And yet the vast majority of TFP thinks prostitution should be legal and its not a big deal. So which is it? Pretty much nothing says 'object' and 'money' like prostitution.
You want to remove that stimulation? Try a burka, and yet oddly in those cultures women have absolutely no status what so ever unless they are attached to a male, be it her father, her brothers, or her husband.
Instead of getting upset in the whole thing, embrace it. Women who understand sex and sex appeal are the powerful ones, use it to your advantage knowing mens nature instead of wishing men acted more like your girlfriends.
To quote a stripper I talked to a few years ago, 'Men are stupid.' From her perspective she was correct, the men she dealt with were stupid, and she would make over a $1000 a night for just having fun and dancing around while denying them sex.
You don't have to play a part of course, claiming you do is not true, I doubt many 'plain Janes' get objectified, so lose the make up, forget the hair style, go utilitarian, and bow out if its so bad.