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Originally Posted by JinnKai
From my OP:
The reason I haven't offered a solution is I don't have a damned clue, other than to avoid these types of expressions. I started this thread with the express purpose of discussing ways to encourage without objectifying, but that's not where it ended up, obviously. I erroneously assumed that the majority of posters would agree with my premise that "I'd hit it" has an effect like I described. That's where I was wrong. It was evidently much more interesting to discuss whether "I'd hit it" was offensive, rather than what we could use in its stead.
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With regard to the "I'd hit it," phenomenon. It's actually a VERY small percentage of male bonding (there's also farting, cursing, drinking, fighting, sports, music, the list goes on).
It only seems to be huge because sex sells ... so does violence and any extreme form of behavior.
It's akin to the fear and sensationalized media reports about shark attacks every Summer. How many people go swimming in the ocean? How many shark attacks are there?
I agree that ANY number (of shark attacks or sexist behavior) is tragic, and yes ... unlike shark attacks to an extent ... we CAN work to change this mode of OUTWARD behavior. But men will most likely NEVER stop objectifying everything around them (not just women).
Cars for instance, it's not just a way to get from point A to point B ... its the cool factor. Men objectify cars just like everything else.
This may not apply to you (it certainly doesn't to me ... I could care less about cars ... in fact I ride a bike) ... but you get the point. I'm sure there are some things that you objectify ... if not women and cars. And I'll bet you had to WORK ON the "not objectifying women thing." I catch myself EVERYDAY furtively glancing at women around me and "sizing them up."