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Originally Posted by vanblah
OK, Jinn. You've shown us examples of sexism in the Media. And I am NOT denying that it happens outside of the media as well ... as in EVERYDAY life. But you have YET to offer any constructive method for "fixing" the problem ...
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Originally Posted by JinnKai
WHY is this an aspect of socialization for men? I'd like to keep this civil, so please avoid telling me it's because men are pigs or because all we do is think about sex.
In my own novice sociological opinion, it has developed as a way for men to boost their self-esteem by implying that the woman in question would actually ALLOW him to have sex with them, or that they could MAKE the woman have sex with them. Both are foregone conclusions in the usage of the phrase, cleverly ignoring the fact that she'd have to accept your advances in order to "hit it." As my girlfrend eloquently replied to someone's usage of the phrase, "Would SHE "hit" that? Probably not, asshole!"
I think it also serves a purpose for men in bonding, allowing them to feel closer to one another by acknowledging that they'd both like to "hit that", and thereby share a common interest and perception of beauty.
If you agree with my interpretation, how can we encourage these two things (increased self esteem and male bonding) without simultaneously objectifying women and excusing sexual violence?
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The reason I haven't offered a solution is I don't have a damned clue, other than to avoid these types of expressions. I started this thread with the express purpose of discussing ways to encourage without objectifying, but that's not where it ended up, obviously. I erroneously assumed that the majority of posters would agree with my premise that "I'd hit it" has an effect like I described. That's where I was wrong. It was evidently much more interesting to discuss whether "I'd hit it" was offensive, rather than what we could use in its stead.
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Last edited by Jinn; 04-03-2008 at 09:49 AM..
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