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Ustwo · 04-03-2008, 06:54 AM

So when did this conversation go from the term 'I'd hit it' as some violent thoughts about women to 'I don't like guys who say crude things to women'.

As far as I can tell its a completely different topic.

As I've stated when I see a woman who is attractive to me, part of my mind starts thinking sexual things about said women. It can't be helped, and while I don't use 'I'd hit it' in personal thoughts the net effect is the same.

So I will ignore the 'crude men saying unwanted sexual things are bad' angle this post has gone because its really an uninteresting question, yes rude behavior is bad, and last I heard water is wet.

I will address the deeper issue of does our language betrays some inner feelings towards women, violent or otherwise.

To Jin's original premise, no, use of the term 'I'd hit it' does not somehow translate to thoughts of violence against women. Its just the current euphemism among the internet savvy youth to say 'I find her attractive and would like to have intercourse with her.' You could argue that sex itself is a violent act, with all this thrusting and penetration, but unless you are an ultra-feminist who thinks all sex is rape, it becomes a hallow argument as part of the requirement for violence is that it is not consensual. If you tie a woman up, put nipple clamps on her and poor hot wax on her ass its violence, unless you are at a BDSM event, in which case it could be thought of as loving.

So that leaves why. Why are young men prone to say something like “I'd hit it” apparently more than young women. Normally I'd go on some long evolutionary explanation, which would boil down to men are different than women in their approach to sex. If this is shocking to you, well my guess is you need to get out more. But lets get even more basic without getting into the old arguments of parental investment and genetic pay off.

Ask a woman to describe another woman, ask her to describe a man. Now ask a man to describe the same woman/man. I will be willing to bet that in most cases the woman will be far more descriptive of the characteristics than the man will be. In my own life I have come to an agreement with my wife on these things. She used to spend a good deal of verbiage describing the people at her work, she wanted to tell me about her day and what Mark said and what Sally did. I on the other hand just got back from a long drive from down town and often a long day of lectures. Its not that I didn't care about her day, I didn't care about details which to me were meaningless. So when she would get verbose about some new woman working there, I'd ask her the only question my brain needed to know about her appearance.

'Would I do her?'

She knows my tastes to a degree so the answer was either yes, no, or occasionally maybe. Were I 15 years younger I would probably be asking 'would I hit it?' but the intent would be the same. It would be to get the only piece of descriptive information I'd be interested in regarding someones appearance. Her height, weight, hair color, eye color, taste in clothes, makeup, perfume, way of walking, funny way she says 'chowder' all boil down to that one question. For men, I don't care at all, so unless the story directly needed a physical characteristic, it really didn't matter, and I didn't want to hear it.

Men are, as a rule, far less verbose on matters of appearance. I'm sure you will find plenty of men, some of them even straight, who care what color her skirt was, but most really just don't care.

04-03-2008, 06:54 AM	#111 (permalink)
Ustwo Pissing in the cornflakes	So when did this conversation go from the term 'I'd hit it' as some violent thoughts about women to 'I don't like guys who say crude things to women'. As far as I can tell its a completely different topic. As I've stated when I see a woman who is attractive to me, part of my mind starts thinking sexual things about said women. It can't be helped, and while I don't use 'I'd hit it' in personal thoughts the net effect is the same. So I will ignore the 'crude men saying unwanted sexual things are bad' angle this post has gone because its really an uninteresting question, yes rude behavior is bad, and last I heard water is wet. I will address the deeper issue of does our language betrays some inner feelings towards women, violent or otherwise. To Jin's original premise, no, use of the term 'I'd hit it' does not somehow translate to thoughts of violence against women. Its just the current euphemism among the internet savvy youth to say 'I find her attractive and would like to have intercourse with her.' You could argue that sex itself is a violent act, with all this thrusting and penetration, but unless you are an ultra-feminist who thinks all sex is rape, it becomes a hallow argument as part of the requirement for violence is that it is not consensual. If you tie a woman up, put nipple clamps on her and poor hot wax on her ass its violence, unless you are at a BDSM event, in which case it could be thought of as loving. So that leaves why. Why are young men prone to say something like “I'd hit it” apparently more than young women. Normally I'd go on some long evolutionary explanation, which would boil down to men are different than women in their approach to sex. If this is shocking to you, well my guess is you need to get out more. But lets get even more basic without getting into the old arguments of parental investment and genetic pay off. Ask a woman to describe another woman, ask her to describe a man. Now ask a man to describe the same woman/man. I will be willing to bet that in most cases the woman will be far more descriptive of the characteristics than the man will be. In my own life I have come to an agreement with my wife on these things. She used to spend a good deal of verbiage describing the people at her work, she wanted to tell me about her day and what Mark said and what Sally did. I on the other hand just got back from a long drive from down town and often a long day of lectures. Its not that I didn't care about her day, I didn't care about details which to me were meaningless. So when she would get verbose about some new woman working there, I'd ask her the only question my brain needed to know about her appearance. 'Would I do her?' She knows my tastes to a degree so the answer was either yes, no, or occasionally maybe. Were I 15 years younger I would probably be asking 'would I hit it?' but the intent would be the same. It would be to get the only piece of descriptive information I'd be interested in regarding someones appearance. Her height, weight, hair color, eye color, taste in clothes, makeup, perfume, way of walking, funny way she says 'chowder' all boil down to that one question. For men, I don't care at all, so unless the story directly needed a physical characteristic, it really didn't matter, and I didn't want to hear it. Men are, as a rule, far less verbose on matters of appearance. I'm sure you will find plenty of men, some of them even straight, who care what color her skirt was, but most really just don't care. __________________ Agents of the enemies who hold office in our own government, who attempt to eliminate our "freedoms" and our "right to know" are posting among us, I fear.....on this very forum. - host Obama - Know a Man by the friends he keeps.