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Originally Posted by Miss Mango
\"You need to love yourself before you can love others.\"
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*shudder*
I hate that phrase. It's such a cliché. I think it's pretty meaningless.
Are you all going to tell me that every time you were in a relationship and you were in love with the other person, and they were in love with you, you accepted yourself unconditionally for who you were?
I think it's a load of BS. We all have issues, self-doubt, moments of frailty. Some things never go away. As long as you're relatively balanced as a person, and sometimes even when you're not, there's someone out there who will love you, and that you can love back. And there's a lot to be said for being able to give love to others, even when you're not in your best shape.
Maybe not love each other completely, but that's another cliché, "completely", there's always some little things that annoy you about the other person and that are annoying about you. The thing is when you're in love, you might just find those annoying things endearing...most of the time.
Generalizing that a person will only find love when they radiate complete self-confidence in who they are and permanently have a smile on their face or whatever, pisses me off and I think it's a real put down for anyone who is single and looking for love.
We already doubt ourselves enough without having to have a soul-searching moment thinking "do I love myself?". I rarely think about whether I like myself. It's seems like such a non-issue. I'm stuck with me, I try to be my best self every day. That's all I can do. It's like that question, would I be my own friend? I have no clue. I can't see myself impartially from outside myself.
The OP's initial statement ranks right up there in annoyance points for me, with the phrase "It will happen when you least expect it."
