I was objectified by a group of 20-30 construction workers the other day (I was there to interpret languages for a study on immigrants by the university here--they were mostly Polish), and it made me feel sick to my stomach. I couldn't even understand what they were saying, but I knew the tone they were using, and it made me want to kick each and every one of them in the balls. Instead, I could do nothing but turn around and leave. Would they have treated me that way if I was one of their sisters, or mother? I seriously doubt it, because of the triple standard. It's fine to objectify strangers, maybe-fine to objectify friends/acquaintances (depending on how hot you find them), and absolutely NOT ALLOWED to talk in such a way (or let others in your "group" talk in such a way) about your loved ones. Of course, respecting all women universally is just too much to ask for, I know... I should really learn to expect less from men, as MM said.
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Originally Posted by levite
Guys talk like that in part because we really do cherish our immaturity in various ways.
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And why is that, exactly? Who benefits from that? Why not hold each other accountable to talking respectfully about women, instead of defaulting to the lowest, most base denominator as a form of "communication" and bonding?