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Originally Posted by willravel
It's not like guys sit in front of middle schools for 3 hours a day and say it. I'm not sure why it'd be offensive. It's simply a more honest and improper to say, "she's attractive".
And, yes, all men objectify women before they meet them. That's kinda a no brainer. The news flash is, of course, that women do it, too. I'm not ashamed to say I've been objectified a number of times and it's flattering. Yes, it might be a bit awkward if a woman said, "I'd hit that" when I was in line at the bank, but I can't imagine being offended by it at all. Shoot, I might not even think it was stupid and presumptuous. Why is it not stupid? Because it's totally normal to find someone sexually attractive without knowing them. Presumptuous? No, because the "I'd hit that" doesn't mean "I'm going to hit that". It simply speaks of a hypothetical situation where it becomes available to hit, and then gets hit.
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Just because this is the way for you doesn't mean it should be that way for everyone. As a woman, who has been casually objectified since the age of 13 (I remember the first time, yez) it becomes a little tiresome. And you start to think of these things as being stupid and presumptuous. That is human nature just as much as your masculine impulses.
'Flattery' is the luxury of the unaccustomed.
And again, just to be clear, I can understand and laugh along with the use of these phrases in a humorous way, but there comes a point where it becomes tiresome. To put it in my own way, it's akin to exploiting everything of beauty that comes your way for personal use. Like a real estate developer looking at an expanse of virgin forest, lol. To me, sorry, that is a sign of immaturity whether you are male or female. Immaturity or some sort of OCD.
