Several years ago, I had joined a forum for support while I journeyed my way from oblivion to health. There were pictures posted, personal stories told and friendships growing. With this group, I lost over 100 lbs, gained the strength to leave a stagnant, unhappy marriage and job, and become a role model for my girls.
I was invited to assist the Administrator and also became one of a handful of Coaches at the site. One of my proteges (he credits li'l ol' me
) went on to become a professional bodybuilder. We've had several gatherings to raise money, and a small group of us remain bonded and have vacationed together and kept in touch all along. They are amongst the dearest and most special people in my life. One of them is my best friend, who lives across the country, but we often spend a good half day of the weekend on the phone together.
Although the site and most of the original members have somewhat disbanded, that small group has a bond between us that will never be broken. If any of them called me for anything, I'd be there in a heartbeat and I know that the reverse is true as well.
I think that the forum venue gives us an opportunity to speak and be heard. The nature of verbal (or would that be oral?) conversation makes it difficult for one person to get out what it is they want to say. When we can type out what we want to say, more is conveyed. We also tend to hold back a little less than we might in person. Maybe that has something to do with the close bonds we're able to form?