BCD, can I hug you? Thank you for starting this thread. It sparked a conversation between my boyfriend and I that led to a very good night.
From my very recent experience with this, make sure your wife is relaxed. Then, when she tells you to stop...don't. It was uncomfortable for me because its a feeling I usually stay away from as well. After reading this thread, my boyfriend and I were both pretty determined that there was a better orgasm out there for me.

We were right.
If she is relaxed, and you keep touching that spot, she is going to feel fantastic.
Thanks Again, and good luck to you both.