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Kahn · 03-19-2008, 06:15 PM

To some people, the phrase "honey, you're a dumbass" can be the deepest wound you could ever inflict on them. To others, it is merely mild foreplay and warmly welcomed. It really depends on the couple, their history together, and the nature of the dialog exchanged.

My wife calls me a sadistic prick and this generally leads to some form of slap and tickle / hanky panky game we've come to enjoy over the years. I call her "graceful as a retarded kitten" and she knows I'm playing .. and then we "fight" about it, but in the sense that more slap / tickle will soon follow.

So really, it just boils down to the nature of the "insults" and their intended meaning. Saying you're a jackass and meaning .. har har, yer a goof or some such .. as opposed to saying you're a jackass and meaning .. pack mules got nothing on you .. is two entirely different interpretations that should be easily discernible based on the context of the "fight".

I definitely agree with Cynthetiq about good communication = relationship success, and that this type of dialog .. IN THE RIGHT CONTEXT .. is indeed very good communication.

03-19-2008, 06:15 PM	#5 (permalink)
Kahn Psycho Location: Physically in Houston, TX - Mentally Lost in Time	To some people, the phrase "honey, you're a dumbass" can be the deepest wound you could ever inflict on them. To others, it is merely mild foreplay and warmly welcomed. It really depends on the couple, their history together, and the nature of the dialog exchanged. My wife calls me a sadistic prick and this generally leads to some form of slap and tickle / hanky panky game we've come to enjoy over the years. I call her "graceful as a retarded kitten" and she knows I'm playing .. and then we "fight" about it, but in the sense that more slap / tickle will soon follow. So really, it just boils down to the nature of the "insults" and their intended meaning. Saying you're a jackass and meaning .. har har, yer a goof or some such .. as opposed to saying you're a jackass and meaning .. pack mules got nothing on you .. is two entirely different interpretations that should be easily discernible based on the context of the "fight". I definitely agree with Cynthetiq about good communication = relationship success, and that this type of dialog .. IN THE RIGHT CONTEXT .. is indeed very good communication. __________________ Attention everyone: We have another potential asshole in the area ! You don't have bad luck, the reason bad things happen to you is because you're a dumbass !! Dinner $50 Drinks $30 Motel $40 Finding out she swallows - PRICELESS!!!