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levite · 03-14-2008, 04:45 AM

Yeah, three times. Which is three more than I ever dreamed I would. But it was the right thing to do.

Once was this party I went to in high school, and my friend introduced me to this girl there, and pretty much said, "She's looking for someone to 69 with. I told her you were supposed to be great at that." And she was like, "Yeah, you up for it?" But it just didn't feel right. I had only just learned her name, I didn't know her from Adam, she didn't look like my type, and she made it crystal clear she wanted to get off and get gone. It just felt too empty and pathetic for me. So I said no.

The second time was in college, and this girl I was casual friends with basically said she just wanted to get laid, and would I do her a favor: it wouldn't mean anything, just sex between friends. But I knew she had a thing for me, and it would've meant something to her, and not to me. It just would've fed her feelings, which I didn't return. And I wouldn't have been able to live with myself.

The third time was after college, and I was living with my long-term girlfriend. I was working as an actor at that time, and I had a part in this indie film that was shooting, and the girl who played one of the leads and I totally hit it off. Great chemistry both on and off-screen, loads of shared interests, just major sparkage. She was a smokin' hottie, too. I still remember those gorgeous dark eyes.... We flirted, probably a little too much, and on the last day of the shoot, she gave me a lift home, and we were flirting the whole way. Before she dropped me off, she basically let me know she was really into me, and it wasn't necessarily a problem for her that I had a girlfriend, and she gave me her number. I was soooo tempted! But I didn't. I just can't cheat on a girl. That's not the code.

03-14-2008, 04:45 AM	#13 (permalink)
levite Minion of Joss Location: The Windy City	Yeah, three times. Which is three more than I ever dreamed I would. But it was the right thing to do. Once was this party I went to in high school, and my friend introduced me to this girl there, and pretty much said, "She's looking for someone to 69 with. I told her you were supposed to be great at that." And she was like, "Yeah, you up for it?" But it just didn't feel right. I had only just learned her name, I didn't know her from Adam, she didn't look like my type, and she made it crystal clear she wanted to get off and get gone. It just felt too empty and pathetic for me. So I said no. The second time was in college, and this girl I was casual friends with basically said she just wanted to get laid, and would I do her a favor: it wouldn't mean anything, just sex between friends. But I knew she had a thing for me, and it would've meant something to her, and not to me. It just would've fed her feelings, which I didn't return. And I wouldn't have been able to live with myself. The third time was after college, and I was living with my long-term girlfriend. I was working as an actor at that time, and I had a part in this indie film that was shooting, and the girl who played one of the leads and I totally hit it off. Great chemistry both on and off-screen, loads of shared interests, just major sparkage. She was a smokin' hottie, too. I still remember those gorgeous dark eyes.... We flirted, probably a little too much, and on the last day of the shoot, she gave me a lift home, and we were flirting the whole way. Before she dropped me off, she basically let me know she was really into me, and it wasn't necessarily a problem for her that I had a girlfriend, and she gave me her number. I was *soooo* tempted! But I didn't. I just can't cheat on a girl. That's not the code. __________________ Dull sublunary lovers love, Whose soul is sense, cannot admit Absence, because it doth remove That thing which elemented it. (From "A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning" by John Donne)