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Originally Posted by JinnKai
I think settling is far worse than being overoptimistic. Optimism can be fine-tuned and more realistic expectations set, but "settling" never can be.
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Quote of the year right there.
With being overoptimistic, when you find someone, they can still have their faults, but still be well above average in your eyes.
If you settle for something, you're doomed to failure. If you genuinely love that person, you're not really "settling" for them anyways.
Of course, certain traits will also need to take priority.
For example, my most recent ex was by far the most "normal" of the bunch by others standards, but that's a good part of why our relationship failed. She was too nice, got along with me too well, and it ended up becoming stagnant and boring faster than ever before.
As far as lubeboy's original list goes, that has got to be the SHORTEST list of demands I've ever seen. Smart, humor, and me for me are total gimmes anyways. How the hell can anyone think its wrong to try and find a WHOPPING two unique traits? Even the petite should be a blow off, as there's no point in having a relationship with someone you don't find physically attractive anyways.