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I think perhaps this discussion would've been better had if it were split gender-wise. The things that men really have on their list would have to be omitted for the feelings of some women, and the things that women really have on their list would probably have to be omitted for the men.
Anyone who denies this is either trying to seem like the PC good guy or doesn't realize that there's a very big difference between what we consciously list as "what we want" and what we actually desire. There has been study after study after study that concluding that what someone lists on a "ideal mate" checklist relates only incidentally to what they are ACTUALLY attracted to on a physical and emotional level. I'll be glad to provide sources if anyone is interested.
I'm not sure anyone can really be HONEST about what they want without upsetting someone else (Well, I don't have X Y and Z, why do you like me?)
I'm not sure you CAN be too picky. It will naturally coincide with your success rate. If you continue to fail (or find a lack of) women who meet your criteria, you will naturally lower your standards.
I think settling is far worse than being overoptimistic. Optimism can be fine-tuned and more realistic expectations set, but "settling" never can be.
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