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Prince · 03-06-2008, 08:33 AM

Interesting question.

I've never had a "connection" with anyone other than my wife, since I got married. Then again, I am very much an introvert, and I don't easily open up to someone I don't know well, so developing such a connection would not be easy for me anyway.

Of course I've met girls who I thought were cute (which is more important to me than 'hot', by far) and who seemed intellectually interesting. And I may have thought, "if I weren't married, I'd ask her out." But that wasn't because I wished I weren't married - not at all. It was just a manner of scaling that person.

I don't establish a connection easily, but when I do, it's very strong. Perhaps my standoffish behavior is a defense mechanism of sorts. I'd rather not develop such a connection with someone outside of marriage, because of the depth of the manner in which I connect.

03-06-2008, 08:33 AM	#12 (permalink)
Prince /nɑndəsˈkrɪpt/ Location: LV-426	Interesting question. I've never had a "connection" with anyone other than my wife, since I got married. Then again, I am very much an introvert, and I don't easily open up to someone I don't know well, so developing such a connection would not be easy for me anyway. Of course I've met girls who I thought were cute (which is more important to me than 'hot', by far) and who seemed intellectually interesting. And I may have thought, "if I weren't married, I'd ask her out." But that wasn't because I wished I weren't married - not at all. It was just a manner of scaling that person. I don't establish a connection easily, but when I do, it's very strong. Perhaps my standoffish behavior is a defense mechanism of sorts. I'd rather not develop such a connection with someone outside of marriage, because of the depth of the manner in which I connect. __________________ Who is John Galt?