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Ustwo · 03-06-2008, 07:22 AM

My wife, being female, likes to go into verbose detail about rather mundane subjects.

This was especially true when she was working at a bigger company. She would want to tell me about her day, and the various people in her life I would never meet. She would call them by their first name instead of something meaningful to me like 'The head of HR'. Later she would say 'well Mike did blah blah' and expect me to know who Mike was.

Lets call it the whole Men are from Mars thing. Anyways she would also try to explain the appearance of the people involved at times, and what she looks at in a person is different than me for appearance. So in order for both of us to save time I just ask 'Would I do her' and she knows me well enough to answer yes or no.

Now where does this rambling tale lead?

Being jealous of a SO's 'wandering eye' is about as classic a form of insecurity there is. Now being insecure is considered bad so no one likes to say it applies to them, but I know if my wife was talking about how cute some guys were when we were first dating it would have greatly annoyed me, and likewise for her. Now, older, and together for 16+ years, its like commenting that its cold out.

So my advice is to be sensitive early on, but there should come a point where you are secure enough in a relationship that you can look, admire, comment on a member of the opposite sex without your SO getting their feelings hurt.

03-06-2008, 07:22 AM	#48 (permalink)
Ustwo Pissing in the cornflakes	My wife, being female, likes to go into verbose detail about rather mundane subjects. This was especially true when she was working at a bigger company. She would want to tell me about her day, and the various people in her life I would never meet. She would call them by their first name instead of something meaningful to me like 'The head of HR'. Later she would say 'well Mike did blah blah' and expect me to know who Mike was. Lets call it the whole Men are from Mars thing. Anyways she would also try to explain the appearance of the people involved at times, and what she looks at in a person is different than me for appearance. So in order for both of us to save time I just ask 'Would I do her' and she knows me well enough to answer yes or no. Now where does this rambling tale lead? Being jealous of a SO's 'wandering eye' is about as classic a form of insecurity there is. Now being insecure is considered bad so no one likes to say it applies to them, but I know if my wife was talking about how cute some guys were when we were first dating it would have greatly annoyed me, and likewise for her. Now, older, and together for 16+ years, its like commenting that its cold out. So my advice is to be sensitive early on, but there should come a point where you are secure enough in a relationship that you can look, admire, comment on a member of the opposite sex without your SO getting their feelings hurt. __________________ Agents of the enemies who hold office in our own government, who attempt to eliminate our "freedoms" and our "right to know" are posting among us, I fear.....on this very forum. - host Obama - Know a Man by the friends he keeps.