starburst,
thank you for trusting us with your concerns and I'm glad we've been able to give you some new perspectives to work with...
There's nothing inherently wrong with your husband's desires. Many people enjoy the s/m & d/s lifestyles to varying extents, from casual to the extreme. But with them comes the responsibility of acknowledging the limits, physical and emotional, of your partner. There are many books on the subject that your husband could read if you still wanted to pursue a mutually satisfying power exchange relationship.
__________________
Most people go through life dreading they'll have a traumatic experience. Freaks were born with their trauma. They've already passed their test in life. They're aristocrats. - Diane Arbus
PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce
|