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Originally Posted by mixedmedia
I can tell you in no uncertain terms that playing around with these kinds of emotionally-charged sex acts can take a toll on you mentally. Even when it's something that you do want. Even when you know you are just play-acting, the emotions can take a toll on you as if they are real.
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I'm just going to quote myself here for good measure.
I spent about a year indulging in power head-games, giving myself over to them willingly and
without anxiety. And it
still managed to fuck me up.
Your posts give me anxiety, starburst, lol.
I'm not saying that d/s games should be abandoned, my boyfriend and I still play them and I still enjoy them, but they have to be handled lightly and then put back on the shelf once they're over. I don't see how you can leave them behind if they are causing you anxiety.
And like the other ladies here, I would be alarmed by your husband's attitude. His unwillingness to compromise with a safe word sounds controlling.
I'm going to stop here because I have issues and I don't want my advice to get bogged down with my own emotional baggage, lol, but you should
seriously examine your instincts here.
Take care of yourself.
