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Originally Posted by JustJess
If you like it, and you truly trust him, go on. If you do not, stop. Immediately. .....................................
If you don't feel like he would stop if you asked, then I would have a BIG problem with that. A BIG problem.
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I spoke with him last night and he says that he would really stop, if he feels he is seriously hurting me. He refuses to use a "safe word" because allowing me to decide would remove the element of my being helpless and his controlling and dominating me. I find it sexually exciting and extremely gratifying except fpr the tears.
I love him very much and he treats me as an equal in all other aspects of our marriage, but strongly feels my limits must be extended to keep our sex exciting. If I had conrol, he feels, I would not reach my full potential. He lavishly praises my ability to excite him and continues smoothering my body with kisses after climaxing.
I want so bad to please him and the exhilarating feeling of totally being dominated, but have anxieties. Are my anxieties goung to destroy an otherwise very good relationship?