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Originally Posted by starburst
I am uncomfortable with excessive force and prolonged pain.
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Occasionally he has a compelling desire to see me helpless and in great pain.
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He then forcefully thrusts until I am sobbing in tears.
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It is the pain and tears that turn him on, I am sure.
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Am I endangering myself or should I concentrate on enabling myself to withstand his growing desires?
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Have you told him how you feel about these experiences? Personally I don't see anything wrong with the acts themselves (I found reading them quite erotic actually), but I like it really rough and get a kick about being pushed as far as I can take it with a trusted partner. Your DP story makes me want to do that right now exactly as you described.
However if you do not enjoy it then your husband should not be making you engage these acts. I don't like the fact that he loves watching you suffer when you obviously hate it. There may be a way to negotiate fantasy role-playing situations where you ACT as if you are being pushed to your limits but are still within your comfort zone. Rough play should always involve trust, communication and an unquestioned safe word. As it is, it sounds dangerous and he's probably watching too much torture porn.