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Originally Posted by Crompsin
I feel that a relationship that isn't a burden at times doesn't have any gravity, any weight.
I find that I change my goals and habits to compromise with my partner in the long run.
I becomes we. I wouldn't want to build a relationship if I didn't have to carry some weight.
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The difference between a relationship that works and one that doesn't, however, is not whether there is weight to carry. It's whether you make the load balanced and comfortable or not. You don't necessarily want a heavy load, but if you're going to carry one, it had better be balanced.
Relationships without at least some conflict, difficulty, and external baggage (i.e. real life) are unrealistic at best. What matters is how you deal with those things both together and individually.
"The thing that matters is not what you bear, but how you bear it." - Seneca