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Originally Posted by jewels443
Let's say a black man is dating a white woman. His mother had always commented that he should marry a woman of "his own kind". "She'll understand you better". That qualifies the comment as preference, right?
When the white woman is invited to meet his mother, she says, "I hope you're not planning to marry him because he will marry a black woman." That's discrimination.
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In my mind, both of these examples are preference. If the mother said, "If you marry him [none] of you will be in the will." or something, that would cause them harm - then it becomes discrimination.
Now, telling a white woman you will not date her because she is white - is that an example of your preference becoming discrimination? She may feel that you are causing her unjust harm - or judging her without all the information. Is that interfering with her rights?
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Originally Posted by ASU2003
Let's say there are three people who applied to a receptionist job at my company. One is a 20-year old guy with experience, the second is a 20-year old cute girl with very little experience, and another is a 50-year old woman who is a pro. Which one do I want to work with everyday? Would my answer to that question mean that I am discriminating?
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I think the only way preference could not become discrimination is if all three had the SAME skills. And that type of situation - where everyone is on the same level - happens very rarely. Because while you call it preference, someone can call it discrimination, which, I think, makes the line between two even more blurred.
This conversation came up because a friend was talking to a "co-worker" would prefers not to work with gay people who have AIDS. However, she was not asking the people she was working with if they were 1) gay or if 2) they had AIDS. She was making these decisions based on how the person looked. Now right off, we will all have a problem with her basing this on looks (reminds me of racism), but that's not the point. The point is that she "preferred" not to work with this group of people to the point of refusal - and she would not call this discrimination AT ALL. This is how we started the discussion of the differences between the two.