I was 30 when my second husband and I married. He's about a year older. Sex began to dwindle to once a week within about two or three years due to stress, time constraints and the typical stuff. I told him we needed to talk and we did. We were misreading one another's signals somehow and things got back on track, better than ever. I did have to accept that I'd be the aggressor (make the first move or comment) 'most all the time which was tough for me at first.
After that, it got better and better. The sex was the only thing that kept me married to him for so long (14 yrs). (And yes, made the mistake of maintaining occasional sexual games with him after the divorce until I saw how that was messing with his head.
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