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I've been with my wife for 16 years; married for 10 of those (I'm 39, she's 34) We've had our moments (months) of little sex. I figured that her libido was waning due to age and stress (usually finances). For a time the marriage looked like it was going to fail; but we persevered. It is all about communication and paying close attention to what is causing stress and then WORKING TOGETHER to fix it (if it's fixable). It was during a smooth patch that our daughter was conceived and born. Then the whole sex thing disappeared for a few months. We continued to talk about it and I came to realize that her libido hadn't really waned; she was just tired and had been slightly anemic for quite a while. She just didn't have the energy for sex ...
Also, it's not really the sex that you're after ... it's the intimacy. The thing is, with men, intimacy almost always leads to the desire for sex. It's the way we are wired; touch us and we get horny. Women are a little different. Of course, there are times when we (mostly men, but women, too) just need the "release." and it has little to do with intimacy.
Communicate. Don't complain ... don't show statistics ... that just gets depressing. Find out what is causing the decrease in libido. See if the stress can be removed and work together to fix it.
Make the next time you have sex MOSTLY ABOUT HER. Remind her that sex can help relieve stress and make you feel great the next day (or later in the day if it's a nooner).
Am I having as much sex as I want per week? No. Are we trying? Yes. We average about twice a week, but not consistently.
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