Nole of 4UrMe

Okay, I accept in advance the quality and quantity of flaming I will likely be enciting against mysef; but . . . my daughter is 22, graduated from college, and a manager at her work. Even with all that, she knows I will likely disown her if she gets pregnant. Not that I'm against sex, I'm not and I know she has gone through some very "slutty" times in her brief "career", as did I. However I am 100% planned, yes PLANNED parenthood. As I tell her, she doesn't yet have a job she likes, or friends that she respects; she doesn't know if she wants to stay put in this town or leave to somewhere very different. It would be entirely unfair to both her and any child for her to have one at this time. Carelessness is what I'm against. Children should be valuable enough to be considered BEFORE the choice to be pregnant/parent, not valuable by default because of carelessness.

Therefore if my daughter gets pregnant before she is happy with herself and her life, I would let it be her decision, but if she didn't have an abortion, our relationship end completely. Then of course, I have to evaluate the "party line" vs reality. Reality, I would disown her till she had no longer an option to abortion, that way I couldn't harp on her everyday. Then I would listen to see if she fully grasped the responsibility she was taking on and truly wanted it. If so, I'd un-disown her; if I didn't think so, I'd have to walk away, I can't see parents that don't take the raising of their children totally seriously.

BTW my son has the same threat over his head for getting a girl pregnant before she primarily, and he secondarily know themselves and are generally happy with their lives.

correction= *if he gets a girl pregnant. (for getting sounds like he has gotten a girl pregnant and he hasn't)

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