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Other than ghoastgirl, it doesn't sound like any of you have been through anything even similar to this. We all know how we would WANT to act, but when it actually happens, more than likely we will all act differently.
I was 16 when I got pregnant with my son. It was stupidity on my part - the guy and I didn't have anything even resembling a relationship. I also never told my mom I was sexually active. I had sex only one time before, why embarrass myself? When I finally did tell my mom, she freaked out, literally. Screaming and yelling, throwing shit, threats. She was pissed. A day later, my mom, my sister, and I all sat down at the dining room table and discussed what we would do. She told me my options - adoption, abortion, giving her the child until I was ready and prepared to raise it, or keeping him for myself. All in all it was my choice.
Obviously, I chose to keep him. I went to school and worked full time, but eventually I was doing too much. I dropped out of school my senior year because I was failing two classes I needed to graduate due to absences. So, I went to working full time. Never did graduate.
I don't think I'm doing so bad now, and my mom definitely makes sure that I'm taking care of my son. I would hope if I ever have a daughter (or even if the situation happens with my son) and she tells me she is pregnant, that I would react the same way as my mom did. List the options, explain the options, and then leave the decision up to her. After all, it IS her life. As long as I give her the information that is needed, I can only assume she would make the decision that would be best for her.
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