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I think you are all complicating things far too much...
If this was me, and my dad was still around, I wouldn't expect any of this. I wouldn't mind if he decided to do this though - but only if it was as a romantic gesture, not a binding one. If I was treated as a possession, I doubt we'd be together.
Since in your part of the world it's expected, I think you can do it if you feel she will take it as something romantic only. If you think she may be offended by it, don't do it. I don't really think it matters if you have a few qualms over it. It's so irrelevant, if she would like you to do it and her dad feels respected by your doing it, then why not? It's not always about you.You know in your heart she's not yours to own and as long as she knows that too, it's just keeping her dad happy and in the loop, and making her feel all gushy inside lol
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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