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Originally Posted by Ustwo
I'm a hoopy frood after all.
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Clearly a man who always knows where his towel is.
I also say ask for his blessing. Perhaps the distinction between asking his blessing and asking his permission is a fine one, but I think it's important enough to be made. You're going to do what makes the two of you happy. Asking her parents, then, is showing respect for local custom and for her family (who will soon become your family, after all).
It's not really a question of ownership. I don't think anyone is seriously suggesting that the bride-to-be (or groom-to-be, for that matter) is a possession to be bartered for. However, it is a tradition. Marriage itself is a tradition. Showing respect for how it's done in your area only makes sense. In other words, why do it by halves?
I wouldn't worry about her father saying no. Odds are he won't and if he does you'll probably go and do it anyway, I reckon. People generally do what makes them happy. It's up to him whether or not he wants to facilitate that or stand in the way of it.