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Originally Posted by genuinegirly
Changing locks would be petty.
Giving him 2 weeks to move out is not.
Really... what they have done is not fair to you.
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It's tempting to indulge in some vengeance. But, really, they did what they thought would make them happy. It's not their job to make sure I am alright with it. They have nothing to feel guilty over, really, other than some discourtesy and a lack of consideration. I am the one that made it so huge. They just saw another person that they vibed with.
This doesn't stop me from being pissed off and hurt, but I have to work through that. Kicking him out isn't going to accomplish that. It's just going to end a 13 year friendship. And, this issue and its previous incidents aside, he has helped me out and backed me up so many times it defies description.
She, on the other hand, is pretty much going to be out of my life altogether. Not out of petty vengeance, but the fact that I need separation. In this case, I have to do what feels right for me, and that includes not dealing with her anymore. I also need seek out some therapy. This whole thing has revealed larger issues in my own psyche that need the assistance of a professional to resolve. I should be confident enough in myself that this kind of thing would not hurt this bad. After all, it's not like I was in love with her. I was attracted and interested, and I cared about her, but that's it. I should be able to dust myself off, and get back in the game. I know that I just can't do it. I feel like the victim of adultery, and that is NOT at all what happened. I am playing the victim card when it just isn't justified. Something else is clearly going on and this is just symptomatic.
Veritas et Lux!
Jimmy The Hutt