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Originally Posted by JimmyTheHutt
So, I've been thinking about this.
How I feel is no one's responsibility but my own. They did what felt right for them. The impact on me is mine to deal with, not theirs. Everything else is just me being petty and juvenile.
I can't help being angry, but I can make sure that they don't carry it as their responsibility.
Veritas et Lux!
Jimmy The Hutt
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Congratulations! You've reached the mature decision. You may think I'm being sarcastic, but I'm not; a whole mess of people never come to this realization. Hence my somewhat mean-spirited response above.
Now that you've realized the truth, all you have to do is implement it. Be happy for them. Also, if he really is sponging off you as detailed above, tell the lazy bum to get a job and start pulling his weight. Roommates aren't bad in and of themselves. Roommates who don't chip in their share, however, are definitely not cool.
But specific to the relationship, yeah. They're responsible for their own happiness, and you're responsible for yours. They've both made the decision that they think will lead them to be happy, and it's up to you to do the same. And I promise you that being bitter about what they've decided will not make you happy.