albania

Werd. I was thinking sexual abuse myself (parenthetically (which I suppose I don't have to announce if I actually use a parenthesis) this reminded me of loveline callers way back when I used to listen to loveline).

Back on topic now, have you thought of therapy for her. This to me would indeed be a big issue. It seems as though she has no "logical" reason, like religious or what have you, for abstinence. Which means she either has an innate aversion to sex, highly unlikely, or some trauma in her childhood like sexual abuse(which she may have even suppressed) has left a lingering impact.

You mentioned that you were in college if so you're in luck. Most decent sized colleges have pretty well equipped student health services where you can get therapy either for free or pretty close to it. I know that my university(in the northeast) offers single, couples and group therapy for somewhere around 10-30 $ per session. See if you can take advantage of this. It may be that she finds it difficult to open up to you and a professional might have better luck, or perhaps she has no actual problems. But, guess what, therapy doesn't hurt you one bit.