boobmandan

Martian - I have brought it up in conversation two or three times, and I've gathered what information I wrote in my original post. The conversation is filled with a lot of "I just don't know's" and "I know, but..." and other uncertainty. She knows that it's an issue, and she's supposedly "working on it," but I think these are some deep psychological things that obviously take a lot of time.

I'm also very hesitant to share how it truly makes me feel (that I've seriously contemplated dumping her, etc...), because I have in the past and she gets very embarrassed that she's not living up to expectations and it makes her feel bad. It's actually one of the more frustrating things in our relationship, because I think of all these mean things to say that explain how I feel, but censor myself when we talk. *laughs* It makes me hostile, almost, but I try not to bring it out on her. I think my next step is going to try to change things up when I'm fingering her. Without fail, it's always been where we're laying side by side, her on her back, me on my side. And I'm reaching down. I think if I try to move so I'm down between her legs she might be a little bit more comfortable. (Not to mention I'll have a much better angle to try some G-spot stimulation). I won't force things, of course, but I think this could at least make some progress... I think I'll try to give up on the idea of having sex for our two year anniversary (next week).

JJ - she's never received oral sex. I forgot to mention that she's never had any other intimate partners besides for me. So she has no idea what she's missing. She won't let me try.

Thank you all for your help. I look forward to more responses =)