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Originally Posted by RolandGilead
I have cut communication with her now, and I hope I will be strong enough not to send her letters or call her fo at least a month. Although I know that I am technically right I completely understand her reaction now, since I would have reacted similar myself. I hope however, that after a while she loses her anger and that we can talk properly so this relationship does not end the ugly way.
BTW before our seperation we had similar problems like hardknock. She accused me of not being sensitive enough concerning her emotions, but always told me like 10 months afterwards when I did something wrong (when I could't remember anymore and wasn't able to defend myself).
On the other hand it was always MY fault when we did not talk enough...
damn these women..
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Rol, speaking from a perspective of the benefit of a bit more experience and tons more introspection on affairs of the heart than you have had time to acquire, she was your first, she will always be your first, and with others to come, you'll have to show, (and more importantly feel....because they can tell...) at times, a little less concern, a little more indifference, even an infrequent, barely detectable meanness.
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Originally Posted by RolandGilead
....Then she told me again that her feelings towards me were not strong enough and that she doesn't miss me as a partner.
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We have a tendency to be more attracted to what we cannot take for granted. It may seem like playing games, but it is the way of things. A little "keep'em guessing" is attractive, and a hint of "too needy", comes off as pathetic.
She showed you that, and it cetainly hasn't driven you away, even now. Learn from your experiences with her.
Have some more, as soon as you can, with other partners. You have much to look forward to, if you can let yourself get past this.