Originally Posted by Hardknock

You make a damn good point my friend.

I'm going through the very same shit with my wife right now, and she is exactly what you described. She can't communicate worth a shit. And she has a controlling mentality where she always has to be right. First, she gets pissed off at me when I fail to make her feel better by saying exactly what she wants to hear exactly when she wants to hear it anytime she's in a down mood. Second, she subscribes to the notion of, "If you love me I shouldn't have to tell you what to say, you should already know." How the fuck am I supposed to know what's she's feeling if she doesn't fucking tell me?!? Third, she doesn't tell me what shes thinking or what she's feeling at any give time. I'm just "supposed to know" if I love her.

Anyway, after 11 years of that, she says she wants a divorce. Says I don't pay attention to her anymore. I don't respect her enough to consider her feelings. (I still have no clue what the are half the time because she doesn't speak up!) And that I'm the one who needs to change because I don't talk to her. Nevermind that she won't accept partial responsibility because of the fact that she doesn't say shit regarding her feelings and I supposed to read her mind and play guessing games with her feelings forever. She can't see that it's driving me away and that's the reason why I'm clamming up. She's so fucking stubborn she'd rather see our 11 year marriage go down in flames rather that admit she was wrong and try to fix this.

Anyway, I'm at the point where I just wanna say fuck it and cut off all contact with her. We have a kid too so it's not that simple. But she's really starting to piss me off.