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Originally Posted by onesnowyowl
Chances are, your partner has some secrets too. We all do. And we do need someone to tell them to.
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Truth is that I don't think my partner would ever be the person I tell *all* of my secrets to, and that's okay by me. It's a problem if it isn't with him/her, but I don't think that's ever going to change (for me).
It's always been most difficult for me to be completely honest with the people I care about the most (and those who care the most about me); as bad as I've always felt about this, I'm finding it's not as uncommon as I used to think.
Overall impressions of what's been written so far... it's interesting to me that many of the responses focus on disclosing information from the past. When I thought of the question I guess I'd been thinking about fully disclosing the "present," if that makes sense.
Example: if I go through my day with a head full of mental meanderings, does my partner consider it "hiding something" if I don't open up and talk about it all? "Yes" if it has something to do with our relationship; "no" if it doesn't.
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Originally Posted by inBOIL
There are some things that I will never tell anyone; they're just too private. I expect that anyone I'm in a relationship with will also have secrets that won't be shared with me. But if it's something that affects the relationship, you have to decide what's more important, your secret or the relationship.
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I agree with this. Is it unhealthy for the relationship if I prefer to keep such things to myself, relationship-related or not? It can probably work for some partners and not for others.