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I'm with the general crowd here... open and honest is great, but dredging for bad stuff to just spring on your SO in the spirit of disclosure is bad. I recently brought up to my wife a person I had slept with quite some time ago. I'm not even sure anymore what brought the discussion up. I'm certainly not proud of it (she knows the person) and she took it very well (she was sad for me I think).
Realistically, I don't think there is anything that could come up about her past that would change how I feel about her and I believe that it works the other way, too. We've all done bad things now and then. Some things ARE better left unsaid. My wife, for example was (is) a band geek. The whole American Pie band camp thing... stuff like that really does happen. If she and some random dude had a sexual romp with her, him and his trumpet, it wouldn't make me feel any different about her. But I'm pretty sure I'd rather not hear a graphical depiction of it. Though she admits that "things happened" at said camps and outings, I think she's probably not told me the whole story. Maybe it's for the best. It couldn't HURT things, but why bring it up? LOL
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