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it's irrelevant at this point as to what age they were married because he's not asking for the beginning of the problem, but a window with which to find an answer to the issues of now. Granted information from the past does help, but it's time to find out what to do in the now to make things move for the future.
Protect, Save, Build, Preserve.
It's the four building blocks for financial planning. However in this case, I will use it towards your current situation.
Protect your assets - Using corporations or structures to seperate yourself and your earnings from your wife to ensure that you will have sufficient funds to survive alongside provide for your children.
Save - Fix what can be fixed, save what can be saved - now that you're protected, check yourself to see if you are truly communicating properly. Are you communicating to her, or with her? And check the same from her side.
Build - Your relationship with your children. Build good behaviours to change unwanted results. Good intentions are one thing, but without behavioural changes, the result will always remain the same. Build your relationship back up again if possible - see if she is able to agree to being accountable for performing certain behaviours. Reward or punish the behaviour accordingly. Sell the TV if it's what's getting in the way. If nothing's left to build upon, build the case against her with recorded unbiased proof that she is not fit to raise the children on her own. Build the case that shows that your marriage should be either annulled or end in divorce.
Preserve - Your rights to keep custody of the children if she's truly not pulling her own weight. The "going on strike" idea is a good one, but ensure that you don't damage your children's understanding of right and wrong in the meantime.
Good luck whichever way things end up.
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