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i dont have any particular opinion about the situation outlined in the op because when you write about something like this, you reorganize it so thoroughly that the story ends up being more about what you are trying to do than what explains what you are trying to do.
i was married for 17 years and then we divorced. what i different is that we had no kids.
my only bit of advice is--and this comes from the fact that i did not do this, so trust me on it---this will fuck you up for a while. get counselling. dont fool yourself into thinking that because you feel ok that you are ok---you may end up performing your not-okness in all kinds of ways--and chances are, if my experience is any guide at least, you wont see it.
16 years is a long time. you are knit into this thing in a much deeper way than you think.
get some support.
you'll need it.
it isn't a bad thing to do, it is not a sign of weakness.
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a gramophone its corrugated trumpet silver handle
spinning dog. such faithfulness it hear
it make you sick.
-kamau brathwaite
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