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Hain · 01-10-2008, 01:04 AM

I have always had an open book policy to my past, my SO's can ask anything and I will answer everything honestly.

The only exception is when my SO asks for names of old SO's, flings, etc. Things I have done in my past are private between them and me. I will talk about what I have done, just not who it was... does that make sense? It is like handing out your friend's phone number to someone you know they did not give, or want you to give, it to.

If my current SO has a problem with that, then they need to work with me now, not battle my past. I am willing to discuss my past and who was in it... but I am only half of the party in question, shouldn't the other person have a say as to what we've done privately? Don't confuse this as still wanting to be with them, it is respecting that what we were/did was private between us and should stay so. As far as I have experienced, every SO that has had a problem with me with-holding names from them, have always objected to me mentioning them in my next relationship. Why? "It is our private life."

Call me strange but that is just me.

01-10-2008, 01:04 AM	#26 (permalink)
Hain has a plan Location: middle of Whywouldanyonebethere	I have always had an open book policy to my past, my SO's can ask anything and I will answer everything honestly. The only exception is when my SO asks for names of old SO's, flings, etc. Things I have done in my past are private between them and me. I will talk about what I have done, just not who it was... does that make sense? It is like handing out your friend's phone number to someone you know they did not give, or want you to give, it to. If my current SO has a problem with that, then they need to work with me now, not battle my past. I am willing to discuss my past and who was in it... but I am only half of the party in question, shouldn't the other person have a say as to what we've done privately? Don't confuse this as still wanting to be with them, it is respecting that what we were/did was private between us and should stay so. As far as I have experienced, every SO that has had a problem with me with-holding names from them, have always objected to me mentioning them in my next relationship. Why? "It is our private life." Call me strange but that is just me. __________________ ////\\// IRONSKY.NET \\//\\\\ Last edited by Hain; 01-10-2008 at 01:07 AM..