belezabaub

You own personality is not something you control. IMHO your perceived reflection of yourself is very much controlled by the reactions of others around you. Does a beautiful woman know she is beautiful through just by looking at herself in the mirror? I don't think that she does. She judges herself on the reaction of others. If men approach her and if women compliement her appearance she thinks she is beautiful, if they don't she does not.

Our perceived personality of ourselves is merely a construct of people's favourable or unfavourable reactions to our actions and in reality very few of even our closest friends take the time to meaningfully form any rational view on our personality. Instead we devote well over 90% of our time rationalizing about ourselves and peoples reaction towards us rather than thinking about how we perceive them.

Maybe I'm just an egomaniac but whenever I think about people I know, I can tell you stories about things they done, I can tell what makes them angry or sad but when you ask me about personality or what type of person I percieve them to be, I can usually sum it up up in a sentence. Ask me about my own personality or how I percieve myself, all I can say is, I hope your sitting comfortably because this is going to take a while.

Our own personality is far more important to ourselves than anyone else. No one gives a shit. People in my experience are much more self concious than they are concious of the world around them.