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Originally Posted by ASU2003
If they broke up on good terms, and your relationship is going through a rough patch, she could quickly decide to get back together with the ex. Or at least get persauded to break up by talking to the guy who has his own agenda.
(The genders could be reversed and the advice would be the same.)
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That part to me is critical. It's one thing if your relationship is going great..you have a sense of stability, and usually the ex isn't perceived as a threat. But if you're going through a tough time,
and the ex is still in the picture,
of course it's very easy for it to complicate things. I'd understand that if I were in the
OP's situation, and I'd back off with the ex until the relationship was worked out one way or the other...not say "deal with it..." What kind of message is that to the person you're with
NOW? "I don't care about your feelings, deal with it tough guy..." That would probably piss me off.