Dear Ustwo: My boyfriend is being too controlling and doesn't want me to hang out with my ex lover. How do I get him to see that nothing is going on and he should let me have my own friends?
Clueless in Cleveland
Dear Clueless:
Maybe women can think they are innocent friends of ex-s but men know men.
As men we can be friends with women we find attractive, but we would like to fuck them too. If the right circumstances developed, we would, and if its an ex, all the better, its just one for old times sake right?
So as men we don't trust other men, even if we do in fact trust our Gf/wife whatever. Now depending on the situation and type of girl we are dealing with here, even if we trust you to not be looking for an affair, we might not trust you to not get a little drunk one night and 'make a mistake' with an ex, or even perhaps being taken advantage of.
So as a note to all you women out there who think its cool to be friends with a serious ex, don't. Even the most pussified, croc wearing, mac using, sensitive male will still not be 100% comfortable with it no matter what he says because its what sensitive males are suppose to say. They will still feel better if you stop texting the guy and going to movies together.
Now with all things relationship, there can be exceptions to this rule, and like all exceptions they are rare for a reason, so don't assume that just because the guy that took your virginity is now married and it was 10 years ago that your husband/bf should be totally ok if you guys are friends and hang out and do stuff together, or that its silly that he doesn't want to hang out with you and the guy who used to fuck your brains out and taught you all those moves.
May the Pasta guide you.
Ustwo.
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